How to Write The Best Online Dating Profile – Examples for MenBy The Creator on Feb 25, 2015 in Dating Profile Articles Comments: 0. Tags:
Looking for The Best Online Dating Profile Examples?
Meet Mr. Needy, Mr. Funny, Mr. Sad, Mr. Cocky and an array of 12 other colourful fictitious characters based on actual profiles, that I have come across during my online travels. Some correctly utilise the methods and techniques I teach, whilst others are prime examples of bad practice. At the end of each profile my critique picks out the good and bad areas in their online dating profiles. The profile examples will give you some great ideas, and highlight what you should be avoiding.
So what should a great online dating profile convey?
It should provide an insight into who you are – your attributes, likes, dislikes, interests and character traits. It can be likened to a store window display; with your products (personal characteristics) on show, and your customers (women) browsing. If they like what they see they will want to find out more about you. When you pop up in the search results your profile has to make an impact… “POW!”, or she will just move on to the next search page. When done properly the best online dating profile examples will attract the type of women that you are searching for. I can help you to create exciting online dating profile examples which will give you the maximum chance of success.
Lets take a look at a few examples (bad and good):
About: Non-Smoker with Athletic Body Type
Details: 23 year old Man, 6′ 3″, Catholic
Intent: Looking for a relationship.
City: Florida, USA
“I don’t know why I am doing this, but hey here goes…
My ideal match should be rich, sexy, and have a beach house on the coast. Otherwise I’m not very particular.
Oh and did I mention blue eyes, blond hair and a perfect body, attractive, classy, smart, charming and well read?
Ah and while I’m at it, I should tell you that it’s essential that you be low maintenance. Actually no maintenance would be best, but a semi-annual maintenance check and level check would be acceptable….but then again, I’m not picky!
It is essential that you feel as comfortable in jeans as an evening gown.
As to your height, after reading a few profiles, it appears very important that short women have very tall men. I can’t figure out why…perhaps it has something to do with light-bulb changing? Therefore no woman under 6 feet need apply.
Finally, if you’re the girl-next-door type, please tell me what exactly who you’re next door to.”
The Creator Critique
Sadly a great many men make laundry lists of what they want in a mate. Laundry lists are for the Laundromat but not as enticement for dating.
The classic apology that never belongs in any profile description contains the infamous words
“I don’t know why I am doing this…”
“I don’t like talking about myself, so…”
“I can’t believe I am here, but…”
“blah blah blah…”
Every one of these phrases begs the question, why bother to go online if you can’t get over the newbie factor?
Even if finding a mate who is taller than 6 feet weighs less than 170 pounds, has blue eyes and super sexy only makes you appear cranky and spoiled. Funny how email negativity is stronger than in-person verbal negativity, so give this a wide berth. He could have easily rewritten:
“Therefore no woman under 6 feet need apply”
“Since I am 6 feet 6 inches tall I would love being out with a woman who is also tall and who is able to wear high heels without causing any height inferior complexes”
Therefore key things to remember from this dating profile example are…
- Don’t write your profile to be a list of what you NEED and WANT.
- Write a profile which is a subtle advertisement of who you are.
- Make your profile ad sufficiently clear – in a positive way – so that inappropriate prospects will realize they’re not a match for you before making contact.
About: Non-Smoker with A Few Extra Pounds body type
Detail: 32 year old Man, 5′ 11″ (180 cm), Non-Religious
Intent: Looking for a relationship.
City: Westminster, USA
“I’m a very upbeat person but tend to be a bit cautious when I first meet or contact someone. But at the right time I can be more outgoing and adventure seeking.
I love music, painting, PC programming, and travelling. I enjoy quality music. Art? I draw and paint through the PC. Travel? I once attended Munich in Germany to speak at a seminar. This gave me a chance to explore the city and I experienced things like the Marien Square, Olympic Stadium and the Beer Halls.
I am continually working on IT projects and constructing new software. One of my ambitions is to design robot applications.
My ideal first date could just as well be at home with a TV dinner, or out and about exploring, whatever you’d prefer. Or we could just let the weather decide…hope its snowing…ha ha.
I like to plan ahead and consider myself ambitious. I would like to own my own place sometime this year but that depends on my work situation. Travel the world, yes thats another one, RV down the south of France and stop off on a couple of vineyards.
I’m looking a long term relationship. I am clean living. So if you are intelligent, and a positive/happy person, and enjoy travel, then we’d probably be a great match!”
The Creator Critique
There are lots of conflicting areas in this profile. Although he says he can be outgoing and adventure seeking I get the impression he doesn’t actually do much outside.
“My ideal first date could just as well be at home with a TV dinner, or out and about exploring, whatever you’d prefer”
So his sense of adventure extends from being at home with a TV dinner to exploring, or why not leave it up to the date to decide. Wow is this confusing reading. The guy doesn’t seem to have a firm opinion of what he wants here…a big no no with women, he needs to take the lead.
“I like to plan ahead and consider myself ambitious. I would like to own my own place sometime this year but that depends on my work situation” .
Owning your own place counts more of a necessity than an ambition…is he still living with mom, or living in a trailer. Also there seems to be some issue with work…which in itself is not a bad thing as millions of others are out of work, but there is no need to bring it in here – remember women like to go for someone with security who can provide for them in future, its just a negative which is best left out.
“One of my ambitions is to design robot applications.”
This is too vague, boring and pointless. Robot applications to do what? Better if it was spiced up with something like;
“Did you ever see those Japanese robots that can clean floors. Well one of my ambitions is to design a robot application to do the full housework regime…cooking, cleaning, dishes, put the trash out..if you’ve got any suggestions I‘d love to hear them, so I can include them in my proposal before I submit it to Bill Gates!”
He mentions that he is ‘clean living’ but what does this mean? Does that include alcohol because he mentions visiting beer halls during a trip where he spoke at a seminar, and would also like to stop off at a vineyard in France – more conflicting information.
The last line is ok except he forgot the call to action, essential in all the best online dating profile examples.
“If you are intelligent, happy and love to travel, we could be a great match, drop me a line”
About: Occasional Smoker with Average body type
Details: 32 year old Man, 5′ 10″ (178 cm), Non-Religious
Intent: Looking for a relationship.
City: Newport, UK
“Weird things happen to me; nothing that you should be afraid of, just realize that if we get together, you’re in for a wild ride. I’ve driven a go-cart for six laps with the back of the car in flames. My VW has broken down in front of dozens of honking customers in the drive-thru lane at McDonald’s on many occasions.
I spent my days getting press coverage for people in the film industry, but the truth is, I’d rather be making my own headlines as a writer. My ultimate goal is to move to LA write comedy, but it won’t be easy to leave my family behind because they are my anchor and the paradigm of everything that I aspire to be.
I love staying up late – whether it’s to party or just to read a good book – but I almost always sleep in on the weekends. I definitely have an adventurous streak – whether it’s trying out an exotic recipe, running the dogs, or travelling the world. Oh my dream trip has got to be travelling the orient express from Paris to Venice to Budapest, and then relaxing on some remote Greek island – You In?
My idea of a first date is simple really. After already having gelled on the phone I, as you open your door and even before our eyes meet, I kiss you, whisk you off your feet into my arms (before you faint), put you over my shoulder and escort you to my Ferrari. (Note to oneself: Don’t you DARE try this – some fantasies are best left as fantasies).
So anyway to wrap this short intro up, my idea of the perfect relationship would be consummate companionship, exceptional generosity and an unrestrained love which will provide the base for a long-term relationship…any questions welcome”
The Creator Critique
This essay screams out fun with a capital F! The profile gets off to a great start using the funny scenarios as the attention grabbers which also serve to portray someone who doesn’t take himself too seriously. These also lead in nicely to his career ambition to write comedy showing hes a man who knows what he wants in life. This is well balanced by the mention of his family and down to earth nature which indicates that he is also a considerate person.
There is plenty of specific detail and it is apparent that he is looking for a relationship with someone who will be his equal and would like to be part of his adventure plans.
Intellect shines through his lively profile with the use of correct grammar and carefully chosen words. Well worthy of 4 stars.
Tips for Writing The Best Online Dating Profiless
If you were interviewing for a job, it’s unlikely you would speak the same way as if you were on a date. Many guys make the mistake of writing their online dating profile description as if they were applying for a job. Wouldn’t it be a bit odd if you were sitting across from someone and they were discussing their objectives, background and history as if they were reading from a scroll? Be sure when writing your profile that you are mindful of tone, style, and formality.
Most people are so wrapped up in their own day to day experiences, that they forget just how unique they are. I often tell guys to just start talking to me when they are confused about what direction to take. Once they start talking out loud about themselves, their history, their goals, a direction starts to reveal itself. They start to get it. The more they talk, the more they find clarity. Some are even visibly shocked to suddenly find themselves talking their own profile out loud. “Hey, there is gold in them there hills.” You just have to go searching for it sometimes. It’s a rare person who doesn’t have some interesting experience, aspect of themselves, or life story to tell, unless, of course, they have been living under a rock.
Reveal Something About Yourself
Everyone sees the world a little differently than the next person. This is what makes us all unique individuals.
How do you view the world? What makes you unique? Include interesting details about yourself in your profile that sparks interest, but does not reveal too much.
The most important thing is to be honest. Don’t say I’m athletically built and love cross country track when you were really on the cross country team in high school and the only track you’ve seen is when you’re stuffing hot dogs down your mouth at the horse races. Being dishonest only saves you time and heartache. Sure, you may see that hot young babe who you would give anything to be with. However, if that hot young babe says she is looking for a 6’0 foot tall man with dark hair and you are blonde and 5’5, accept the fact that she’s just never going to be into you and move on. Its just wasting time when instead you could be spending time with someone who is looking for your type.
So many guys spend wasted hours chatting with women online or going on dates only to discover that the person they have been chatting with has not been completely honest.
Following are some common complaints:
“When I met him he looked like my dad. His profile picture must have been from high school.”
“He said he was a few pounds overweight on his profile. I was surprised he fit through the door!”
“He said he was ‘well read’ in his profile, yet he didn’t even know who Hemingway was.”
“Slightly balding? I couldn’t find a hair on his head!”
Be honest. Dishonesty never turns into anything positive and definitely doesn’t turn into a second date.
Reveal your nature, but make sure that what you reveal is really true to life. The best way to check is to have a close friend who knows you well review your profile. Just be prepared to hear the honest truth.
Sell yourself as a unique individual
I can’t stress the importance of showing your individuality enough. Uniqueness is what sells. You are your own product. What makes you stand out from all the rest? Why would I choose you and not the other hundreds of thousands of potential suitors? Be sure to hone in on your uniqueness as a selling point. Think about what people often say about you. Do they always talk about your unique sense of humor? Do they discuss your ability to balance an egg on your nose while reciting Romeo and Juliette in the King’s speech? Whatever your quirky and unique thing is, now is the time to bring it to the display window and show it off.
Setting the scene
Right, so you have your fantastic, engaging, compelling, and wonderful profile about yourself all written up and ready to go. The next step is to discuss what it is you are looking for. You need to set the scene so that the right person will enter the script. Here are a few considerations to get you started:
Think about the kind of person you like to spend time with.
What would you like to spend your time doing with your partner?
Do you want someone who enjoys watching sports or going to sporting events?
Are children important to you?
Do you need an adventurous, spontaneous person?
Remember that the responses you receive will be dictated by the criteria you set out. In other words, you get what you ask for.
Avoid the Laundry List
Menus aren’t exactly what people pick up when they want to sit down with a good read. It’s the same with your profile. Don’t create a boring laundry list of items that interest you such as:
“I like skiing, tennis, baseball, basketball, traveling, my job, movies, good books, TV sitcoms, all types of music, spending time with my close friends and dining out at new restaurants, comedy clubs, going to the theater, shopping, long walks on the beach, watching golf, talking about everything from angling to politics, sailing and spending time with my kids”
How could anyone possibly make the above more boring? A list such as this has no flair and it certainly does not do anything to convey your personality or sense of uniqueness. Choose from 4 to 5 activities that you really like and hone in on them. Don’t overwhelm the reader with so much that it sounds as if you barely have time to sleep at night. Not only will it sound disingenuous, but it will sound a bit arrogant too. The laundry list above will either make women too tired to go on, or roll their eyes and go on to the next person.
We are all individuals with a diverse group of likes and dislikes, but this is not the venue to promote every single one. Save a bit for some mystery and spice later!
The voice that you use in writing your online dating profile examples should be as unique as you are. Your true character should come out. Don’t try to copy someone else’s writing style as this is also a form of deception. Men tend to do the laundry list thing and it never really works. Use descriptive words and make your profile come to life as though the person were sitting right in front of you. Even though we are all very unique individuals, we also tend to be creatures of habit. So many profiles sound the same and use the same old tired clichés. Don’t be one of those people. You’ve only got a few seconds to WOW the person, so use those seconds wisely.
If you’re saying to yourself ‘I’m not a writer’ or ‘I’m not good with words’, here is a tip. Just write as though you were on a date with the lady sitting across from you at a restaurant. Keep it natural and keep it real. What would you be saying to the person? What would you say if they said ‘tell me about yourself’? Now start writing down those answers and you will discover that you are more of a writer than you think. Your uniqueness will come out naturally as long as you are being honest with yourself. You don’t need to be F. Scott Fitzgerald.
It is very important that you are specific when writing your requirements. Clarity is important so that there is no confusion and misunderstanding in the future. For instance, what you might consider tall may be 5’10” or over. What someone else might consider tall might be over 6’ feet. Another common misconception is weight. Some people mark ‘slightly overweight’ when, by health standards, they are really considered to be obese. Again, the rule of thumb, is to check with a trusted close friend who will tell you the honest truth. Sometimes you need a more objective point of view to obtain some real clarity.
While I encourage you to be specific, please also remember that brevity is important too. You don’t need to be specific down to the color of underwear you prefer to wear, but those overarching things, such as weight and height that might be deal breakers should always be made clear. Do you really have brown hair? Are you really 6’ feet or is that when you are wearing shoe risers? Don’t fool yourself, because you definitely won’t fool others. Failure to provide accurate descriptions is one of the most common reasons that things go awry and ultimately fail.
An open book is just that – an open book. There is no intrigue or mystery. Women are drawn to mystery because it represents a challenge, excitement, and thrill. So, just how do you incorporate a bit of mystery, while also being forthright and specific?
Here is where it’s useful to avoid lists. Don’t list every single place that you have traveled in the world. Perhaps say that you have ‘travelled extensively throughout the world’ – think of how many questions and conversations that this will spark on first date. Perhaps you have an interesting palate and love food. You don’t want to list all of the foods and restaurants you have tried. Maybe it’s a simple ‘I love food and have tried just about every exotic thing you can think of’. This would definitely encourage some to respond to your posting. It’s intriguing and exciting and definitely flavoured with a little mystery.
There are so many creative ways to incorporate mystery into your profile. Have fun with it. Play around and explore several ideas. Check out this one:
“Looking for a good beef bourguignon recipe and a seven letter word that rhymes with Cheerios.”
Okay. You have to admit that it’s intriguing to say the very least. Keep in mind that we are not setting out to deceive in any way. We are just creating a little healthy mystery and intrigue, similar to any product on the market.
Avoid Clichés like the Plague
Cheesy, ineffective, and sometimes downright annoying, clichés are one of the most irritating and overused elements in online profiles today. Once you begin to peruse online dating profiles, you will be amazed at how many people continue to use these go-nowhere, lame attempts to find someone.Take some time and really look through a lot of different profiles. You may even want to write down some of the lines that you see repeated over and over again to ensure that you don’t use them yourself. This is particularly important for you to do if you are new to the online dating scene because you may be unfamiliar with some of the regular culprits.
I can’t stress enough about the importance of being yourself. It may be tempting to copy some of the lines from someone else’s profile, but this is not you. It’s someone else. And once you start leading women on to believe you are someone that you are not, you are traveling fast into a brick wall.
So be sure to avoid clichés like:
“I’m equally comfortable at home curled up by the fire or partying the night away”
“My friends and family are very important to me”
“I’m new to this online dating thing”
“Well, what can I say”
“I love the hustle and bustle of the city but also love to escape to the countryside”
“I’d like to meet a woman who’s honest, kind and caring”
Never ‘Diss’ Online Dating in Your Profile
Did you know that approximately one in three relationships begins online? So, before you spend your first paragraph excusing yourself for having to humiliate and demean yourself by looking online, you might want to consider the hundreds of thousands of women who see nothing wrong with it. If someone is reading your profile, it means they are also looking online, so, by default, you are also demeaning her.
If someone is going to pass you up because you are looking for a date online, then they probably aren’t the right fit for you anyway. The more likely scenario is that this method will cause them to pass you by because:
You sound arrogant and ‘above it all’.
You seem negative and cynical.
You are suggesting that online daters are desperate.
The old ‘I’m not used to this type of dating…” is tired and worn out.
Simply put – let go of the negative feedback and concentrate on selling yourself!
I’ve provided some simple online dating profile examples to give you some ideas, and highlight what you should be avoiding.
You can see all the online dating profile examples by downloading this booklet now for free.
The examples are best used in conjunction with the ‘Online Dating Mastery System – Volume 3 – Easy Steps to Writing Awesome Dating Profiles’, or ‘Magnetic Dating Profiles’ The critique is centered around the written profile description since we fully covered the photos, username, and taglines in their own sections.
Browse through, take notes, and utilise the good practices within your own profile description without copying directly – always remember one of your best selling points is your uniqueness.